门口最需要的不是道理，是**今天该做哪一件事**。 填上入园第一天，代码算出**今天是第几天**、落在四个阶段的哪一段，并给出这一天的三个具体动作：**第 1-3 天建立可预期**（这几天哭最凶——**这不是方法失败，是这个阶段本来的样子**）、**第 4-7 天缩短告别与建立衔接**、**第 8-11 天预告与回顾**（重点从门口转移到前一晚和回来的路上）、**第 12-14 天巩固与例外处理**（生病、长假之后几乎一定会有短期倒退，提前想好怎么办）。 **每天只做三件，不要同时改五样。** 分阶段的意义就在这里——第 8 天还在纠结告别时长，是在错的阶段用力。 然后是每晚回填的那一行：**今天哭了多久**。代码把它做成趋势，比较前几天与最近几天的平均。**这条趋势是唯一能判断「在不在好转」的东西**——适应过程几乎从来不是平滑下降的，中间一定有反复（周一、病后、家里有变化的那几天），而**多数家长恰恰是在某一个特别糟的早晨决定「这个方法没用」**。 送园当下的三句话也写好了，还有三件不要做的：**不要偷偷走**（短期省事，代价是他之后一整天都要盯着你）、**不要说「你再哭妈妈就不来了」**、**不要在他面前表现出你也很难受**。 最后有一段是给大人的：门口那几分钟对你的消耗，很少有人认真说。**你在做一件正确的事，同时看起来像在做一件残忍的事。** $2 解锁十四天完整计划（每天一页）、给老师的沟通卡、以及倒退时的应对流程。At the door you don't need principles — you need **the one thing to do today**. Enter the first day and the code computes **which day you're on** and which of four stages it falls in, with three concrete actions: **days 1–3, build predictability** (the crying peaks here — **that isn't the method failing, it's what this stage looks like**); **days 4–7, shorten the goodbye and add a transitional object**; **days 8–11, preview and review** (the work moves from the doorway to the night before and the walk home); **days 12–14, consolidate and plan for exceptions** (after illness or a long break there is almost always a temporary setback). **Three things a day, not five changes at once.** That's the point of stages — still fine-tuning the goodbye on day eight is effort in the wrong place. Then the nightly line: **how long they cried today**. The code turns it into a trend, comparing the first days against the most recent. **That trend is the only way to know whether things are improving** — adaptation is never a smooth decline, and **most parents give up on a method during one particularly bad morning**. The three sentences for the doorway are here too, along with three things not to do: **don't slip away unseen** (easier today, at the cost of a child who watches you all day), **never say "if you keep crying I won't come"**, and **don't let them see how hard it is for you**. There's a section for the adult as well. The toll of those few minutes is rarely acknowledged: **you're doing the right thing while it looks like a cruel one**. $2 unlocks the full fourteen-day plan, a communication card for the teacher, and what to do when it regresses.
十四天每天一页（当天动作、当天的三句话、当晚回填什么）、给老师的沟通卡（该告诉老师哪几件事、该问哪三个问题）、倒退时的应对流程，以及家长自己的支撑方案。One page per day for fourteen days (that day's actions, that day's script, what to log that night), a communication card for the teacher (what to tell them, what three questions to ask), a setback protocol, and support for the adult.
**本工具提供的是通用的适应节奏参考，不是发育、心理或医学评估，也不诊断任何状况。** 每个孩子的适应时间差别很大，**十四天只是一个常见范围，不是标准**，超出并不必然意味着有问题。趋势比较基于你自己填写的时长，样本少时极不稳定，且哭的时长本身也不是适应程度的完整指标（有的孩子不哭但同样困难）。**若出现持续拒食、睡眠明显紊乱、已建立的能力退化、在园内长时间不语不动，或长期没有任何改善迹象，请咨询儿科医生、儿童心理专业人员或与老师详细沟通。** 本工具不替代与老师、医生的沟通。请勿填写孩子的姓名或园所。你填写的内容不入库。**This offers a general settling rhythm, not a developmental, psychological or medical assessment, and diagnoses nothing.** Children differ enormously; **fourteen days is a common range, not a standard**, and taking longer does not itself indicate a problem. The trend uses the durations you enter, is unstable with few data points, and crying time is an incomplete measure anyway — some children don't cry and still struggle. **If there is persistent food refusal, markedly disrupted sleep, loss of established skills, prolonged silence or withdrawal at nursery, or no sign of improvement over time, consult a paediatrician or child mental health professional and speak with the teachers in detail.** This does not replace those conversations. Do not enter your child's name or nursery. Nothing you enter is stored.