门口最需要的不是道理，是今天该做哪一件事。
填上入园第一天，代码算出今天是第几天、落在四个阶段的哪一段，并给出这一天的三个具体动作：第 1-3 天建立可预期（这几天哭最凶——这不是方法失败，是这个阶段本来的样子）、第 4-7 天缩短告别与建立衔接、第 8-11 天预告与回顾（重点从门口转移到前一晚和回来的路上）、第 12-14 天巩固与例外处理（生病、长假之后几乎一定会有短期倒退，提前想好怎么办）。
每天只做三件，不要同时改五样。 分阶段的意义就在这里——第 8 天还在纠结告别时长，是在错的阶段用力。
然后是每晚回填的那一行：今天哭了多久。代码把它做成趋势，比较前几天与最近几天的平均。这条趋势是唯一能判断「在不在好转」的东西——适应过程几乎从来不是平滑下降的，中间一定有反复（周一、病后、家里有变化的那几天），而多数家长恰恰是在某一个特别糟的早晨决定「这个方法没用」。
送园当下的三句话也写好了，还有三件不要做的：不要偷偷走（短期省事，代价是他之后一整天都要盯着你）、不要说「你再哭妈妈就不来了」、不要在他面前表现出你也很难受。
最后有一段是给大人的：门口那几分钟对你的消耗，很少有人认真说。你在做一件正确的事，同时看起来像在做一件残忍的事。
$2 解锁十四天完整计划（每天一页）、给老师的沟通卡、以及倒退时的应对流程。
At the door you don't need principles — you need the one thing to do today.
Enter the first day and the code computes which day you're on and which of four stages it falls in, with three concrete actions: days 1–3, build predictability (the crying peaks here — that isn't the method failing, it's what this stage looks like); days 4–7, shorten the goodbye and add a transitional object; days 8–11, preview and review (the work moves from the doorway to the night before and the walk home); days 12–14, consolidate and plan for exceptions (after illness or a long break there is almost always a temporary setback).
Three things a day, not five changes at once. That's the point of stages — still fine-tuning the goodbye on day eight is effort in the wrong place.
Then the nightly line: how long they cried today. The code turns it into a trend, comparing the first days against the most recent. That trend is the only way to know whether things are improving — adaptation is never a smooth decline, and most parents give up on a method during one particularly bad morning.
The three sentences for the doorway are here too, along with three things not to do: don't slip away unseen (easier today, at the cost of a child who watches you all day), never say "if you keep crying I won't come", and don't let them see how hard it is for you.
There's a section for the adult as well. The toll of those few minutes is rarely acknowledged: you're doing the right thing while it looks like a cruel one.
$2 unlocks the full fourteen-day plan, a communication card for the teacher, and what to do when it regresses.
十四天每天一页（当天动作、当天的三句话、当晚回填什么）、给老师的沟通卡（该告诉老师哪几件事、该问哪三个问题）、倒退时的应对流程，以及家长自己的支撑方案。One page per day for fourteen days (that day's actions, that day's script, what to log that night), a communication card for the teacher (what to tell them, what three questions to ask), a setback protocol, and support for the adult.
本工具提供的是通用的适应节奏参考，不是发育、心理或医学评估，也不诊断任何状况。 每个孩子的适应时间差别很大，十四天只是一个常见范围，不是标准，超出并不必然意味着有问题。趋势比较基于你自己填写的时长，样本少时极不稳定，且哭的时长本身也不是适应程度的完整指标（有的孩子不哭但同样困难）。若出现持续拒食、睡眠明显紊乱、已建立的能力退化、在园内长时间不语不动，或长期没有任何改善迹象，请咨询儿科医生、儿童心理专业人员或与老师详细沟通。 本工具不替代与老师、医生的沟通。请勿填写孩子的姓名或园所。你填写的内容不入库。
This offers a general settling rhythm, not a developmental, psychological or medical assessment, and diagnoses nothing. Children differ enormously; fourteen days is a common range, not a standard, and taking longer does not itself indicate a problem. The trend uses the durations you enter, is unstable with few data points, and crying time is an incomplete measure anyway — some children don't cry and still struggle. If there is persistent food refusal, markedly disrupted sleep, loss of established skills, prolonged silence or withdrawal at nursery, or no sign of improvement over time, consult a paediatrician or child mental health professional and speak with the teachers in detail. This does not replace those conversations. Do not enter your child's name or nursery. Nothing you enter is stored.